Honesty
Being honest with yourself about what you'll really do is a tough one. Many people fail at weight loss because they set their sights too high, planning so many workouts and diet changes, it's impossible to follow. This is where a little self-awareness comes in and what that means is figuring out what you'll really do to reach your goals. Take some time to ask yourself some crucial questions before embarking on another failed journey. Ask yourself:
- How much time will you really spend exercising? Forget the guidelines and decide what you'll actually do, then plan your workouts accordingly. If you know you won't spend an hour at the gym, plan a 30-minute workout you can finish and feel good about.
- Are you willing to do what it takes to reach your goals? If you want to lose weight, are you willing to change your eating habits? What if that means spending more time cooking and shopping? Preparing your meals in advance? Saying no those daily lunches out with co-workers? What if it means you have to keep track of what you're eating and work on your bad habits? Decide if you're really willing to commit to doing that every day or, at least, most of the time.
- Can you accept failure? A big part of weight loss is failing at it and it will happen. It happens to all of us at one time or another. What happens if you flub up one day and give into those pizza cravings? What if you eat that extra piece of pie or skip your workout? Are you willing to accept your slip-up and get back on track or will you quit at the first mistake? Be honest with yourself about this one because willingness to persevere in these circumstances can mean the difference between success and failure.
Flexibility
Maybe this has happened to you: You start an exercise program--you're working out, eating healthy and feeling great. Then, Something Happens--an injury, an illness, a mean boss heaping more work on you. Whatever it is, it throws you off and before you know it, you've completely stopped working out.
It's important to realize that these kinds of things will happen on a regular basis. Your job is to be prepared and, to do that, you have to be more flexible. You need to be willing to...:
- Change your workouts when necessary. If you suddenly have to work late, decide you're still going to exercise, just in a different way. This might mean squeezing in some stair walking, quick office exercises or short, brisk walks whenever you can. Decide you'll do something, no matter how small.
- Do shorter workouts. Many people quit exercise when they don't have time to do a full workout. Remember this: Something is always better than nothing. If you only have 10 minutes, use it. It might mean getting up early and lifting weights for 10 minutes before work. Stay committed, but give yourself permission to do what you have time for until things calm down. Try these 10-minute cardio ideas and don't forget strength training too.
- Be creative. Yes, there are guidelines for exercise, but when time is short, stop worrying about the rules and do what you can. This might mean combining cardio and strength workouts, spreading out your workouts throughout the day or making your household chores a workout, if that's all you have time for. I have one client who runs around the field while she watches her son play baseball--now that's creative.
Consistency
Consistency is what comes from all that discipline, commitment, honesty and flexibility we've been talking about. Why? Because being consistent with your eating and exercise is the only way to reach your goals. Exercising heavily for 3 weeks and then quitting for a month isn't going to work. To make it work for you:
- Find a program that you can live with for the long-term. Do something you enjoy, that fits your personality and that fits into your daily schedule.
- Create, through trial and error, a workout routine that fits with your life, your goals and your needs.
- Find a way of healthy eating that you can live with for the rest of your life. You already know that diets often don't work--at least for the long-term.
- Give yourself a little leeway to make mistakes and, above all, don't expect perfection. Be ready to screw up from time to time, acknowledge it and then use it to do better.
- Don't be afraid to experiment. Try different workout activities and times. Try different ways of eating and preparing your food. Find what works for you.
In the end, losing weight requires you to draw on all of your strengths while acknowledging your weaknesses--not an easy thing to do. The good news is, you have many resources to rely on, most of them readily available right there in your own mind. And it helps to have some outside motivation as well. Don't forget to reward yourself for your successes and don't be afraid to trust that you know what to do.
