Is Fat Ugly?
Monday July 21, 2003
One forum member asks the intriguing question: "I was wondering how many people out there think that fat is ugly? I sometimes see women that are a bit heavy or a bit, as some people like to call it "full figured" and personally I find these women to be very attractive." As you can imagine, this sparked a heated debate about what we think is pretty. What do you think? Come join the discussion.
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Fat people can have good looking features and fat people can have ugly features too.They however are not accepted in soceity as good looking.When I say fat I mean past thick, solid, sturdy and that stuff.Literally fat I mean.No matter how fat you are you can have good looking features but soceity refuses to accept fat people as good looking really.Look at the lady from the biggest loser Gilian.She always had good looking features and I’m sure some guys saw she had the potential to be good looking but because she was so fat her features were not acknowledged.I’m not gay or anything but look at Biggie Smalls on the other hand not only was he fat but ugly.No matter how much weight he woulda lost he woulda stil been ugly.
I think Skinny people can be just as ugly as fat people. Sometimes people are just not attractive in general. Could be bad teeth, unporpotional figure even though they are correct weight. I think people without a weight problem need to take a better look in the mirror and recognize the flaws they have just as well as heavyset people. No one is perfect and in order to be you have to spend thousands of bucks to be. In most would consider perfect to be fake.
fat is alwalys ugly !!!!!!!!!!!!!!. MY NEW GOAL IS TO ANOREXIC i HATE MYSELF AS AN UGLY FAT PERSON
Wow Laura you are sooooo depressed. You need help. big time.
It’s ridiculous to think that all fat people are ugly. There are PLENTY of ugly skinny people. But unfortunately, in this society, fat people are not viewed as beautiful. I’ve seen many times, beautiful fat women who can’t get dates, while there skinny and unattractive counterparts get the hottest guys! But there are some cultures that view FAT as being beautiful. Tocarra is beautiful (even though she shed some pounds) Beautiful AND ugly people come in all shapes and sizes!
Lets face it-Life isn’t always fair.Whether we admit it or not,society has conditioned us to recognize that which is beautiful in appearence (which all of us hope to have)and what is ugly.I am neither proud nor ashamed to plainly state that I was ugly as a kid,as a teenager,as a young adult,and as as I am now at 54.I was thin until my 20’s and have been obese since then.Having been recently diagnosed as diabetic,I am currently losing weight rapidly,but I have no illusions about ugliness somehow dissappearing with my weight loss.People in my situation (and there are many of us)have no use for the “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”crap.We’ve come to terms with how we appear to the world a long time ago,and we go forward as best we can.As Gino Vannelli sang it in his song ‘Ugly Man’-”…and how my heart is clear,cause I have from what I do–And I do just what I am’.
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“…unfortunately, in this society, fat people are not viewed as beautiful”
It would be unfortunate if fat/unhealthy people were perceived as beautiful. We are killing ourselves with food and all people care about is not hurting other peoples feelings. A truly attractive person is someone who noticed they were getting fat and then did something about it and now lead a healthy lifestyle.
well actually being fat is a hell for me!! i want to do things but scared of what might pipol gonna think of me…. they always says that fat person are very lazy but ill tell to you it is not true!!
and i red a book about how to be thin it says their that if you are born fat your chances too be thin is not that big.. so i wish also that fat person can also be accepted.. and dont be discriminated
fat is not always ugly if you carry it well i myself need to loose weight but i have never found it hard to get a guy. skinny people are not always good looking.your face is forever fat is not.i can loose weight but some will always be ugly not to sound mean.but im sick of people who make fun just cause people are different. we all have flaws. ugly feet a big hairy mole something no one is perfect.
fat is extremely ugly to me. i have heavy friends but they are not attractive at all. when i express that i find very lean to be attractive, i get mocked, railroaded and told off. because fat is so normal now in america, lean people are becoming the butt of jokes. i am sick of it. fat is UGLY.
people come in all shapes and sizes. Society NEEDS to embrace that. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes as well. I have seen ugly skinny people and I have seen ugly fat people- and the other way around. I am not saying that being too overweight is healthy or anything, but neither is being too thin. It is unfortunate that people, like Pat, are SO pathetic that they must generalize that all overweight people are ugly….that is just rediculous. It also shows that the people who talk like that aren’t very good looking themselves ( when your attitude is ugly, so are you…..) For future reference, different people are attracted to different things
FAT PEOPLE ARE SO UGLY! stop eating and go to the gym. do you see fat people who are rich? no. do you see fat people who are happy? no. whos pretty in hollywood, or even the real world? SKINNY PEOPLE! its never going to change, and won’t be different. I guess fat people just have to deal with it.
society is unfair it really is alot o us can,t help being heavy and having a fat face the scoiety of to day needs a wake up call.itsn,t always what you look on the outside what counts and how you come across at people.it girls with fat faces have to cheek implants just to suit the media needs which are right down selfish and shallow ,men reject girls who might not win a beauty contest as a reject and to be hated by all. who see her just like the ugly duckling.
umm…shannon you are really rude and do you always see rich skinney ppl?? NO, do you always see happy skinny ppl? HELL NO!
sop i think you need to stop being so ignorent and take a lookat the real world NOT EVERY1 IS PERFECT!! im sure your not SKINNY PPL ARE UGLY TO!!!
Fat is pretty on some people like me im 5′8 has nice face i could go for an plus size model and also i always has boyfriends thier are some people think we are ugly because we have extra skin on our body but to be real people are ugly when they are not naturally skinny
I don’t think fat is ugly to me it depends on how you carry yourself but personally i think fat women should do it big every time we go out because we are depict as an laughing stock to society I’m also plus size very attractive 5′8 i can go for an plus size model always carry myself correct just because we have extra skin on our body dosen’t mean we are ugly i mean i never find trouble with getting an date and also fat women we supposed to have an go personality about us . but to be real all these diets and people getting skinny to the point they are scary that’s ugly if you are not naturally skinny don’t try to be because you will come out looking like star jones and shannon get an damn life .
I have seen enough Fat for a lifetime living in Utah!! The shows that reward these men and women for being obese is ridiculous and very unhealth! They dnce now and die from heart failure later! I am by no means justifying to thin either! These Fat Pushers should be ashamed of themselves for putting on a circus of “Fat Dancers”. They may be the sweetest people with all the right moves but Fat is UGLY!!no matter! Fat woman should excercise by pushing away from the table.
I just recently lost forty pounds. I look better than I ever have and now wear an 8. I used to wear an 18 and was toldI was pretty, just too heavy. I’n now slim, but I won’t date at the moment. I’m very scarred from my experiences. I look great on the outside, but will always be a fat girl on the inside.
ok so yea im on the bigger side i was average up until my sophmore year in highschool then i put on the weight for football and never lost it now i do have strong stomache arms legs etc. it just has a little layer of fat over it i mean i played football so is that really fat i would say yea but honestly as long as you can stand there and say im better then this if all i care about is hwo fat i am i have no life self confidence i may be fat or obese but i dress well im very clean shaven smell good all the time drive a nice car and carry myself to a T thats how it has to work if you dont care then people wont care to look image is only a little of looks most image is about how you carry the look if u look down at the ground walk hunched over you look a mess but if u stand tall smile and are firm you look good so really weither your skinny as a tooth pick or fat as a whale you gotta learn how to carry yourself thats the only way and if people dont like you F**** them they dont know you for all they know you could be a good fun person
I think that overweight people are beautiful and thin people are beautiful. Unfortunetly not all people are accepting of larger figures than others. I am on the heavier side and I hate it! Anywhere I go I feel like people are judgeing me. Sometimes I wear sunglasses all day just so i dont have to make eye contact with anyone.
fat is not ugly im plus sized and im only 13 i want to b a model and i have been 2 several modeling companies that have offered me contracts but i did not have the money at the time dont judge people by the outside i believe im sexy and therefore other people do 2 its all about ur swagger not wat u look like skinner people have higher selfesteem because the are excepted more than fat people bit believe me its all in the confidence [o and by the way not all fat people r unheatlthy i am perfect healthy i cheerlead swim blay b-ball and football and im a great dancer all that lazy fat people crap is just a stereotype]
Almost everybody believes Fat is Ugly because it is seen as unhealthy. Being too skinny is just as unhealthy. A first impression of a woman who is healthy and in shape is more attractive than a woman who is fat or thin. First impressions count a lot. If anyone is over or under weigh please practice eating and exercising as healthily as you can and IN TIME you will GAIN SELF-CONFIDENCE, have LESS HEALTH PROBLEMS, LIVE LONGER, be more likely to be HAPPIER, and be MORE LIKLEY TO ATTRACT A BETTER MAN. Please think of your own health benifits FIRST
ya know…I have been heavy since my 1st child, who is 17, I am constantly told I have a beautiful face, but have been struggling trying to lose weight for years. I know what I want, but I don’t know why I can’t just do it. I am working on myself though. Sometimes being overweight has more to it than just overeating. Once I love ME, for ME, then I think losing the weight and getting healthy can work. We have to love ourselves people. And yes, there is beauty in everyone….Lets love everyone!!!
I HATE BEING FAT!!! look at all the magazines and fashion shows it makes me feel bad about myself! I HATE IT!!! ppl make you feel ugly too they make u feel like your totally ugly!!! guys dont go for us either !! im gonna be a virgin for like the rest of my life cuz of that!!!!!!!!!
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I have seen many “fat” people who I think are good looking because they have a nice looking face, to my kind of taste, and dress nice. What drives me nuts is when someone is a size 20 and refuses to acknowledge it and wears clothes that are way too small in size. Face reality. Wear clothes that fit. I have gained 35 pounds in the last 5 years, partly due to muscle (working out) and partly due to just not being a young little 20-yr-old any more. Metabolism slows down. I have donated most of my ’skinny jeans’ to charity. Life goes on. My husband still thinks I’m hot. I’ve also seen people who are anorexically thin and that is NOT a pretty sight. I shouldn’t be able to count your ribs without an X ray. Ick. Eat something! Drink some water and juice! Good lord.
Also, I consider my body to be “unproportional” [this is for Amy] and so what? It’s in my genes. I can’t help it that my hips come one size larger than my waist (making it really hard to shop for pants) and two sizes larger than my bust. This has always been the case, since puberty. Nothing I can do about it except breast implant surgery and I’ve decided I don’t want to spend my money that way, nor do I want to undergo surgery and painful recovery just for something cosmetic. My choice. If you don’t like it, I don’t care.
I have a couple of relatives that I love dearly but are extremely overweight and while I don’t think they are ugly, I think they are pretty in fact, I do wish they would lose weight so that they would have the health problems, including pain in the back and legs.
Typo in my last paragraph — probably obvious but I meant to say “so that they would NOT have the health problems…”
Fat is unhealthy. It’s normal and ok to not be attracted to fat people. That doesn’t make me a bad person. To me, fat=ugly. And you know what, to someone else, blonde=ugly, and to someone else, short=ugly. You can’t argue a preference. I am not attracted to people with rotten teeth, physical deformities, or severely overweight. It may not be kind, but it’s life. Looks DO matter.
PS, I am TIRED of the “real women have curves” crap. When did “curves” become “folds”? I am very healthy, eat light, exercise, and am thin. Does this not make me a “real woman”? I enjoy taking care of my body, it’s the only one I’ll ever have.
BTW, this is not a dig on women who are bigger. We come in all sizes and shapes, but to hate on women who go out of their way to be thin makes large women no better then the snotty kids yelling “fatty” to every overweight woman walking by. Respect goes both ways.
fat people suck i’m fat and i say that were all ugly you can all be motivationa if you want being skinny is only way to feel happy with self you can huv these little motivational meetings about fat is beautiful but its no it will never be and thats that so stop making up lies saying fat is beautiful.*
Oh come on get over yourselves. Really people everyone is beautiful no matter who you are! Stop acting like you are still in high school and grow up. Fat thin we are who we are. Nothing can change that. Everyone is special. Really! You control what happens. A more heaviset person might be very happy eating food. And the thinner person might be happier exercising. Instead of complaining about it go and help each other out. If you think someone is fat and you really dislike it go talk to that person and see if you can help them exercise. If you think someone is thin then talk about yummy recipes. That is what life is about.
Oy. I think I’m going to start a new movement on the internet: “Ungrammatical is Ugly.” That’s right, folks, people who can’t be bothered to treat the English language with the same respect and care they would lavish on a stray dog…Ugly! People who are flaunting the fact that they didn’t pay attention in third grade and are proud of it…Ugly! People who can’t be bothered to hunt for that pesky “shift” key so they can type the occasional capital letter…Ugly! One more thing, guys: I have never once met anyone who has been browbeaten or insulted for preferring thin over fat. So, please, can we put this urban myth out of its misery right here and now?
I think all this preoccupation with ugly, beautiful, fat and skinny is a distrationary technique. I am a ‘recovered’anorexic and struggle everyday to not get caught up in the endless trap of superficiality. Why aren’t we debating what intelligence or intergrity is? Instead all most people think about is how they look. What do you think happens as you age fat or not beauty fades. This world is set up so we all spend our time worrying about crap. Alcohol and smoking kill more people then being fat does. The reason weight gets attacked is cause its visable and easy to attack. History shows humans love to make groups of induviduals into ‘the other’ its an us and them mentality that keeps us all at odds with eachother. Please stop buying into the hype, think about who controls what you think is beautiful and take back control of your ideas and ideals. Its hard but HEAPS more rewarding to stop distracting yourself and buying your way to happiness and instead realise that your mark on this earth is measured by the type of person you choose to be. Hollywood is another planet, we live in the real world and our happiness lies in moving toward addressing the real issues, trust me beauty isn’t one of them!
I am over weight. The space is intentional. I am over constantly thinking about how much I weigh, and what people think about my body. Health is beauty, so the best thing to do for myself is eat healthy food and work out. Compalining that others do not find me beautiful, or critisizing people for their ideals, will do me no good. Fat people, myself included, need to stop hating ourselves before we expect anybody else to see beauty in us.
ok here’s the deal…fat people are unhappy because “beautiful people ” are considered to be thinner fit persons.telling fat people that they are beautiful and tht they have great features or amazing personalities depress them even more uz they simply knw that ur being untruthful with them. i knw wut im saying cuz i’ve been fat for 5 years im in highschool and its rly hard …im battling with depression by myself . you’re probably saying wow that girl have issues. it’s true it’s hard to be stuck in this figure . go work out … follow diets …simple words not so easy to apply. ” im fat n beautiful and im happy ” if you ever hear this i can guarantee u that they are in big denial .
I like how every time weight and appearance are mentioned it’s somehow automatically linked with femininity and being a woman. So typically patriarchal. “Fat is unattractive? Of course fat women are unattractive!” I never saw any discernment of gender in the original article. Fat men should be considered just as ugly as fat women (not that I think fat=ugly) considering men don’t have anything biologically speaking to stall and hinder their weight loss. They lose weight so fast and so easily there is simply no excuse for a man to be overweight. There needs to be a shift in focus in this society. Too many people are so focused on their weight that they lead unhealthy lifestyles just to get the weight off, negating any benefits weight loss would have had. It’s even worse if they gain the weight back after failing to maintain the diet. Fat should be accepted as the norm in this society. Face it, with the changes to our culture in the past 100 years, an epidemic in obesity was bound to happen. It’s best that we get the fat=ugly part over with so people will stop trying to lose weight for looks and start trying to live a healthy lifestyle.
I am slightly overweight and yes it is ugly, i do not care what anyone has to say about that. For instance say you have your husband who says he loves your weight the way it is but then later you see that he was on some web site with thin girls with big tits, small waist, big behind. so what does that tell you , thin will always be sexy, you know when you look at yourself in the mirror you wished you had a figure that was more appealing to clothes and yes i know this for i was once in a size 24 and it killed me, my health was bad, i was alwways out of breath, now i am a size 12 and i am much happier. Both can be beautiful yes but smaller in size is better only for your health issues. I see many full figured women that are gorgeous , but beauty won’t help your healt issues!!!
Fat shouldn’t be accepted as the norm. The majority of the world’s population isn’t overweight just America’s and I can’t see why. Simple changes like walking instead of driving or getting off the bus a few stops early can make a huge difference. Many people will claim that they are naturally heavy, or have gland problems, but it is hard to believe that over 50% of the U.S. population have ‘gland’ problems.
Get off the computer and stop complaining about your weight. Most thin people are thin not because they are lucky but because they watch what they eat and they excercise.
To answer the question fat is ugly for both men and women. Many fat people may have pretty facial features but they don’t have a nice body. I know this is petty, but I keep in shape why shouldn’t I go out with people who do the same to.
This comment is directed toward Shannon. I’m sorry but some of the wealthiest people are fat. They are heads of businesses or writers for shows and such. They are just behind the scenes. And anyways, some people who excersise frequently and eat well are still larger than some of their peers. It happens, and as long as you take pride in yourself, no one is going to care about your weight.
I think some people need to do some research Just because someone is over weight doesnt automatically make it their fault. New studies show that poverty is linked to obesity, ironically. 1) to buy the same amount of food low income families have ot cut food costs. Most of the cheap low cost food are high in starch, fats, and sugars. There are cheap health foods but to make ends meet low income families are forced to work twice if not 3 times harder to make ends meet and unfortunately dont have time to spend a lot of time on meals. 2) When parents cut their food intake for their children so they dont go hungry the yoyoing of the food consumption causes the body to go into starvation mode and store tons of excess calories. Its kinda sad how giving up a meal for someone else would come back to effect you.
Question why is it that we are sympathetic with people who are anorexic or bulimic because of them giving into society’s pressure to be thin, but NOT to compulsive overeaters. Compulsive overeating is also an eating disorder except it is caused by severe trauma. So we are sympathetic with giving into pressure but not with people who have had traumatic experiences.
just something to think about…
i dont even know anymore..
im only 15 and im not too overweight,i suppose..well,i dont look a pound over 160,but i am.
i think its cuz im 5′9″ so it evens out.
and i have been told im beautiful and that i should even be a model!
but i have begin to wonder what “beautiful”
really is..its something that people use to label others. your either UGLY or BEAUTIFUL
and its all based on looks,i think that beauty should be a little more complex.like,inner and outer beauty should both be a counterpart of overall “beauty”.
so,i dont know.if someone is “fat” yes they CAN be beautiful.and even if someone is stick skinny they can be beautiful too.
but then again they can also be ugly.
i’ve decided thats its just all labels and labels are not my thing.and if you ask me if i think i am beautiful,im gonna be honest yes i am GORGEOUS inside and out
people are too scared to be proud of
themselves
and its getting a little annoying
love yourself
no matter what ppl say otherwise.
If you feel that you are beautiful then people will precieve you as just that. You just need the confidence in yourself.
Sean # 8 posting and Shannon #13 posting…and others I read…u people lack intelligence. I am “fat” and am NOT unhealthy. I don’t have diabetes or heart disease or any other stereotyped disorder or “fat” persons disease. Weight is not only genetic but environmental. Yes exercise does help, but NIMRODS…it’s also genetic. No matter how much I exercise or watch what I eat, I will never be my “ideal weight.” NEVER…!!
I am beautiful as well as fat. I have very pretty features and if a guy that I’m attracted to or another person I come across doesn’t appreciate me for who I am, then so be it. But, I’m not depressed or whatever else. I don’t sit on the couch 24/7. I know skinny people that do that. So that’s a stereotype that fat people hang out on the couch.
Some of the postings on here are just insane…what is wrong with society.
Fat discrimination is the last safe form of discrimination.
Maybe you should worry that fat is becoming an epidemic…and you’ll soon fall victim to it, or your children will. That would be poetic justice eh, to have a child who is fat.
Oh and another posting I read that some dude wrote about him working out and he would want someone who does the same. How does he know the “fat” woman he passes by doesn’t exercise at the gym?
to say that all thin girls are ugly sticks is like ne saying all heavy people are ugly cows! i am thin from my dads side ne the family and i an damn happy. you calling skinny girl ugly makes you no better than the skinny girls that make fun of the fat girls.
To start off, I am small and thin. I have always been.
I can be attracted to a “fat” man or woman just as much as I can be attracted to a “thin” man or woman.
It is when I see a person purposefully eating themselves to death, I will then label them ugly. Not because they are fat, but because they are dead, inside and and out. They have given up and are killing them selves. They eat and eat and eat without even making the effort, or get psychological help, if it is what they need to battle an eating addiction. I find that person, not their body, ugly.
The same with an unrealistically skinny person. I once had a girl come up to me and say, wow you are skinny, I wish I had a body like you! Considering I could see the girls ribs through her shirt (obvious anorexic!)I felt like slamming my take out french fries in her face and scream, “eat something, you look like a damned skeleton with eyeballs, your dumb…” Well, you get it.
The fact remains people, especially you young girls, being fat is not something to beat yourself up about. Take walks, opt for a salad, heck 4 salads, to fill you up instead of that MCDonalds hamburger meal. If you feel a craving for ice cream or a chocolate, eat it, don’t beat yourself up over it! Have a carrot after words and never think of it again. The more stress you feel and guilt over eating and what you look like, the more you will gain! Turn up the music in your room and dance until you can’t dance any more! And top that off with a new hair cut, and a warm bath. Treat yourself good, and you will feel good, inside and out. The weight will drop, when you close your ears to people with UGLY ATTITUDES!
And if you are a gal or guy out there who is big and like being that way, then good for you. Just don’t compromise your health. If you find it hard to get out of bed, please, it is time to drop a dress size or two! But if you are happy, and relatively healthy, then you are beautiful to me!
of course fat is ugly. How can something so unhealthy be beautiful?
I think it’s one thing saying that teenage girls are under too much pressure to be thin, but surely this is better than them thinking it is okay to be fat when it blatently isn’t, and it also looks awful.
I don’t think anyone is ever happy with their body, but personally I’d rather be pretty and maybe not normal weight than anything else. It’s shocking that now the ‘average’ weight is somethign that would previously have been overweight. It obviously shows that as a society we are becoming more lax and should start approaching the fact that fat is just as bad as skinny.
It’s sometimes hard, as a result of low self-esteem, to carry even a few pounds extra. Like so many other millions of people I was the fat girl in school and was told horrible things by not only my peers, but by my teachers as well. I wasn’t even fat: I was 5 ft 7 in grade 5 and weighed a healthy 150 lbs! But, as I was developed in comparison to girls my age, I was fat, “bad”, stupid… the names go on. I look back and laugh. I do however have an eating disorder since those days, one that I’ve kept very secret from people. If other people are like this, I urge you, GET HELP. We are all good and weight should never be a factor. As for myself I am getting better slowly but surely. Have faith in yourself, if nothing else.
yes, i’m some 14 year old girl who really shouldn’t give a damn what people say about how “fat” people are ugly or beautiful, but for some reason it’s making me feel quite bitter. I find myself between “of course fat is ugly” and “I can be attracted to a “fat” man or woman…” why not? but what is ulgy? why is it ugly? is it right to call people ugly? yeah sure its okay to call someone who’s beautiful beautiful but is it all right for you to make that decision yourself? “fat” is f.a.t. i know it may sound mean but think about it. people get fat. people lose fat. why flipp out over something like this. there are people who are tall, small, black, white, yellow, and i don’t know, purple! simply put there are people who are flippen colors of the rainbow. and most don’t care… why care if someone’s bigger then the other. its just making that person more original. who cares, just leave it be. i mean if somone’s heart was going to be consuned with fat then… thats a problem.. other wise let it be… let fat be fat.
I put on a lot of weight during my marriage and then lost 40lbs during the divorce; however, I was a UK22 then and now I am mainly a UK16 (my top half varies by clothing manufacturer) and I am still seen as fat.
I looked up the definition of plus size (a term I hate because it segregates normality) and it now says that UK size 12 (US8)is plus sized.
Even though I now look stunningly average, I don’t feel confident in my looks, I feel perplexed if someone pays me any compliment because I still see myself as huge.
Money makes no difference it just shifts attractiveness from looks to your wallet and what you can give others (viz exhusband).
Yes, I was a fat ugly woman with a stunningly beautiful bank balance.
The words “Ugly” or “Fat” should never be used to describe a persons appearance! It is not about features or size it is about the capacity to give and accept goodness and love. The sum of our worth is in our soul not in the eyes of others or the reflection we see in the mirror.
Perhaps one of the reasons that fat is regarded as unsexy is because it *obscures* secondary sexual characteristics.
The purpose of those characteristics is to advertise good genes: i.e. broad shoulders (as a ratio against waist), substantial muscle mass, defined jawline and so on for men are classic indicators of long-term (reasonably) high testosterone levels. Similarly there are visual indicators of high oestrogen levels in female development (ratio of waist to hip for example).
If someone has a lot of fat on them, these things are harder to see. Although they clearly aren’t the only characteristics (symmetry is another indicator of gene quality), is it not plausible that fat people find their own otherwise desirable characteristics obscured by their body fat?
An opinion about whether someone is ugly or beautiful to a viewer will probably have a lot to do with their subconscious process of sexual selection (a very Darwinian process in my view), which is to say it is a subjective judgement of genetic *match* quality (granted other factors come into play here such as olfactory signals). It’s entirely understandable, then, that different viewers disagree about specifics (because they are coming from a different genetic standpoint, so the “goodness of match” will be vary).
However, in the case of fat people, this hiding of indicators would be more universal (i.e. no-one would be able to see any indicators of good genes if they are hidden by body fat), although I concede it will never be entirely universal (as can be seen from the variety of posts to this discussion).
Just a thought, but it seemed plausible so I thought I’d throw it into the mix for consideration (definitely not an expert in this field so feel free to argue!!!).
i 14 and im fat i hate and i hate everything about me starting with the fatness i havent always been fat though i became fat when i was 11.iv tried so hard 2 lose wieght because i dont like the way look but i just dose not work iv starved myself ,exercized,dietied ALL BY MYSELF SINCE MY MOM DOSENT THNK IM FAT. come on now im 5;11 and way 280 i look like in 9 monthes pregnet so what if im tall i still have 2 much wieght on so i became fat.iv been teased ever since i became fat and i dont look at boyes cuz all thats ever happened is REJECTEN im sick OF it! my mom wont help iv become extemly lazy basically iv given up everyone i live with is FAT
also iv always wanted 2 dance ballet but i wouldent because usually u dont see fat ballet dancers im not saying there arent any but still it would make me extreamly uncomforteble.my mom and stepfather are over wieght they dont have a proble with I have a HUGE proble with my fatness i hate it i also thnk im ugly and WAy 2 tall.im not saying fats not beatiful cuz iv seen a LOT of beatiful fat ppl it just dosent look right on ME and i have asthma and diabeties runs in my family so i dont just want 2 lose wieght for confidents but for health reasons 2 but i cant do it by myself.
After a certain point, yes, fat itself looks ugly to me. I’m not talking about large, toned, proportional people. I’m talking about those weird splayed legs pushed out of alignment by buckets of fat. IT LOOKS UNCOMFORTABLE. It looks clumsy, and it looks like the person can’t function well. I’m talking about thighs so close together that the person can’t walk smoothly, but sort of stumbles along. I’m talking about big “tires” of fat around a person’s middle, obscuring the sleek, healthy form of an active, productive, involved person. I’m talking about huffing and puffing from normal walking, or horrendous freight-train snoring, because of FAT. I’m talking about a big rubbery envelope of fat covering someone’s features, cheeks downward. No, thinner women are not “jealous” of fat women’s ability to eat anything they want. Most of us are wincing at how that must feel, and some of us have been there, or rather close enough to it to have PUT DOWN THE CHIPS. Excessive fat OBVIOUSLY gets in the way of moving gracefully, it looks really bloody UNCOMFORTABLE, thus looking at it makes others uncomfortable. Discomfort = ugly. It evokes pity and aversion, and yes, face it, it’s ugly. Doesn’t mean fat people are bad, but they need to stop insisting that it be considered a desirable state and exactly the same as a trim, fit body. It’s a disorder.
I’m 13 years old and i weigh 152.7 and i aint ugly. People can be fat and not be ugly!!
i dnt think fat is ugly. the thing is that there just not comfortable with themselves so they seem like outcast, but im not the skinnest person ever and i love myself and i have many friends and a great bf, fat people just have to be cofident about there self image and then other people will see that, and if they really dnt like all that extra weight on them they have to just try to do something about it, but what im sayin is everyone just needs to get real there is always goin to be overweight people but thats ok if they want to live with that then let them and dnt go make fun of them just because they arnt what society wants to see!
First of all, I’m a man who has tended to be on the slightly fat to truly fat side off and on for most of my life. I’ve always tended to get mixed messages from people about my weight: “you are fat” or “you aren’t fat” The one thing that I can’t ever remember being called is ugly or having a reason to think of myself as ugly; at least not until this idiotic hysterical witch hunt started a few years ago. But, even in this hostile environment I still get mixed messages from women about whether I look ‘good’ or ‘bad’ to them. The opinions can often vary widely. But, I’ve begun to notice the people who attack others the most are usually either the very stupid people and/or people who are extremely miserable in life and have to take it out on a scapegoat. Looking at most of the people here who have been the rudest and most obnoxious; it’s proven to me that the people with the most hateful prejudices against fat people are obviously also usually the stupidest people in society. Most of them can’t put a thought or sentence together to save their lives. They simply have the same ‘opinion’ that other people of their mentality tell them to have. Knowing that it’s usually lowlifes that ridicule fat people(or anybody else for that matter)has helped me to stop worrying so much about what some others think. I just consider the source.
Also, it’s time for the people to who spout some half-baked theory about why people are fat to shut their mouths. Most of you don’t have the first clue about the eating habits, etc, of ‘fat’ people. Think twice before you assume.
phat pplARENT ALWAYS UGLY THEY HAVE NICE FEATURES TO THEMSELVES THEY HAVE GREAT PERSONALITIES AND GREAT BODY FEATURES!!! now iam not phat but i have freinds who are and friends who think they are but thatzs life you are made the way u are!!!!!!
I am 15 years old and I have always been cubby. But I dont think I’ve really been fat. The way people talk about being fat makes me angry. Just because people are chubby doesnt been they’re not beautiful. These people dont have to live up to other peoples sucky standards. As long as these people are happy, Healthy and maybe trying to get then then why should they still be considered unattactive because of their weight. And when guys say that they like skinny girls better, its because its true because its human nature.But Most of the guys ho are cocky enough to say that to a woman will probably never EVER even get a girl. When guys put aside the weight and actually see the personality, the talent, and the good features of the person is when fat becomes beautiful.
Squids & Octapi
Squids are smaller than octapi however they are both the same exact thing. Even though their shape may differ they swim in the ocean…together…without a care. I know this may sound awkward but if you really think about it, it does make sense. Plus we wanted this not to be so serious but fun and meaningful.They are both equally beautiful but you guys are just consontracting on the size. Why should we be doing that when there are more awful things likje pollution and what not. Poor Octapi are being separated from their families with TRASH! Lets take a trip to reality land and see what we have learned. Fat is Fat; Skinny is skinny. You can can change yourself but it have no effect on beauty and who you are. If you are ugly when youre fat then you will be ugly when your skinny. BEING UGLY IS UGLY.
Sorry bout that. We clicked “Say It!” Anyways, thats just how it is. If you think by making yourself skinny youll be prettier your wrong. Because it YOU! And there is nothing you can do to change who you aer on the inside and how you feel about yourself.We are all beautiful in some way whether it talent, smarts or actual beauty we are all just fish in the ocean. So lets just swim our damn heart out.
Sincerly,
Your friends,
K’ninja & White Girl
PCE!
Hey, I’m sorry to have to break it to all you big losers but the TRUTH is that healthy is beautiful and fat is unhealthy. Get real, get a grip on your appetites. Slim is sexy. (unless you’re a pervert)
It doesn’t matter if you’re a size 8 or a size 16, anyone can be beautiful! People shouldn’t put themselves down about their weight. Skinny people aren’t always the most good looking. I think you should your body no matter what your size!
It doesn’t matter if you’re a size 8 or a size 16, anyone can be beautiful! People shouldn’t put themselves down about their weight. Skinny people aren’t always the most good looking. I think you should love your body no matter what your size!
The truth is that attraction is what drives procreation, its as simple as survival of the species. People cannot help the types they are attracted to, its biological. Animals are the same way. And as unfair as it may seem there is a double standard when it comes to men and women. There are more women than men, which equals more competition. It has been proven scientifically that looks matter more than anything else. Good looks equal better jobs, pay, relationships, service, and public perception. Even a very attractive person is seen as less desireable when they are standing next to an unattractive person. This is not a societal problem, and no one should be ridiculed for their preferences. The honest truth is that we are all attracted to beauty. Even the people who are whining about it only want to be given a chance by an attractive person, no one says oh I wish that ugly person would just give me a chance. Even ugly people want beauties, they dont want other ugly people, but they usually have to settle for them. Hot with hot, not with not. Thats life and its no ones fault. And I do have to say that I agree with the person who said that telling “ugly” people that they are good looking just to spare their feelings is patronizing. Ugly people know that they are ugly, and as nice of a gesture it seems to compliment them anyway, it will only either hurt them more that if you just said nothing, or, will cause them to fall in love with you and then will get their hearts smashed everytime you look at another person. That being said, there is no excuse for being a jerk to someone just because of the way they look, if you don’t think someone is attractive, just keep your mouth shut! They still deserve respect as a human being, no one likes to be hurt, ugly or good looking.
I am in a freshman in high school [the hardest time of all ages] and I am only 82 lbs. Yes, I know that I’m really skinny. But I’m healthy and happy and I loved my body. But until my friends and many other people started rumors and critisized my body, I began to see what I thought other people saw. It wasn’t me at all. I began to see all the bones in my body and I began comparing myself to other people. I used to be a very happy girl but since everyone kept commenting on my body, now I feel horrible about everything about myself.
I’m a senior in high school..lol..I know..young..sorry..
I found my self here while I was googling..How to become beautiful..
I am a heavy, full-figured, or just FAT girl..of 18 years old..
I think that Full figured(or whatever you will call it) people can be beautiful..I suppose it depends on there personality..confidence can go a long way..
But I know for me, I have little to no confindence.
I find it hard to stand up in front of everyone in class..just because I feel like if I move wrong..maybe I look fatter on that side..maybe if i hold my breath, maybe it i pull my shirt down this way…I’ll seem thinner..
so this has been a common question for me as well..is there anyone out there that enjoys fullfigured girls, guys..
Wow, i cant believe how shallow people really are! Some of the comments are disguisting – im presuming these comments are from Americans!! People, get over yourselves,It doesnt matter how you look or what your body shape is. Its whats inside that counts! Society today is revulting
Wow all you people are stupid. Im sorry to say this but if your fat to bad! If people dont accept you for who you are then they arent worth your time move on, i know it hurts but seriously its a waste of time. No matter whar size you are you have the oppurtunity to make your life the best and unfortunatley you only live once. So really stop caring what people have to say and just live your life the way you want, do what you want, eat how you want, be who you are and everything is going to be ok.:]
And for those girls who are worried about there weight because of boys, well heres a tip live your life the way you want and like i pointed out; live your life to the fullest and i gurantee you will find someone..just by being yourself. :]
Your all a bunch of vain little monkeys…I accept all shapes and sizes….I judge only by the soul and all you are satanic fuc&&s and dont know it….what if Jesus came back as a fat man…would you still follow him..think about it….godless
this is really a disappointment! i AM over weight and yeah it gets me down, but you have no right to say it is ugly! no one in this world is perfectly beautiful, the right size, and so on! everyone has flaws! some people dont have the straighest of teeth, while some people dont need braces at all. there is always another side of everything. it is not right to judge people by there appearance! all of my close girl friends are litterally drop dead gorgeous and most of my guy friends are the hottest people i know! and they accept me for who i am! i am sick of people thinking they are better! it is totally catty! you all have flaws, too. and maybe it is things you cant fix, but do you think it is always easy for the not “right sized” people to shed those pounds! i think half of you guys would never survive a week in a “fat” person’s shoes! we go through the bull you skinny people deal! i have been in some of the rough trials, and that is some of the reasons i am this way! i do sometimes really cant handle beind this size! but that is because of the JERKS that dont have nothing better to do but putting people down!
like monique said people are even being judging her! do you think she can help it? i bet she is a totally gorgeous girl that is just being picked on because she is skinny! but isnt that weird? even though she is skinny people still spread the stuff people dont deserve! people are so crude and alot of them need to understand that they need to get over their effin self’s because that isnt hot either!!!
Ugly is ugly. Having a few extra pounds will not make you ugly, unless your already ugly. There are plenty of skinny ugly people out there. As long as your healthy and happy with yourself…who cares what others think? Losing weight is easy compaired to achieving personal happiness. Anyone who wants to be anorexic please re-think that. That is not a quick fix diet, that is a sickness. A sickness that will slowly kill you. Diet and exercise sucks…i know. But it does work if you stick with it and you will look better than ever.
I am 30 years old and I am overweight. I think that all people have the potential to be beautiful, because it’s what’s on the inside that matters. I am happy with my attitude and I am happy with the way that I mother my children, and I am happy with the kind of wife that I am. That being said, no I am not happy with my weight. It’s not all about looks either. I just want to live a healthy lifestyle and I eat right and I exercise. I want to teach my kids to live that way because I want them to be healthy too. I don’t even know why everyone is trying to define whether fat is ugly or it isn’t because it is a personal thing. One person might like a bigger woman and another might go for a skinnier person. All I say is eat right, exercise, stay healthy and if you lose weight, great. Be who you are, and who you want to be. Oh and for Monique, Girl I am so sorry that people are making you feel that bad for being skinny. If that’s who you are and you are happy that way then don’t let anyone try to tell you that you shouldn’t be that way…..Everyone believe in yourself and that is what is beautiful!
Im a 23yrd old with my 4th child on the way from australia and i am 250lbs and i think im very sexy yeah i would like to lose a little waight but i think the only ression why is becouse of what some people say in todays world i mean do u think im fat!!!!!!
i dont like reli thin people personly i prefer some one who has a bit more to grab which i think is better in sex
im young (not gonna tell my age) 5′ 3″ and 102.5 lbs. i’m pretty thin, pretty happy with my body, but i really love it cos im healthy. i’m a vegetarian, a soccer star, and i work out a lot. like i said, im happy with my body, because thin is the desire in our sociey, but sometimes i wish i was like my friends, cos daisy, colleen, they are all curvy and cute and i sometimes wish i looked like them, but i sometimes wish i looked like annablle who’s supersuper thin! i’m not meant to be one of those stick girls but as long as i don’t get like a health problem cos of my weight, then i think it’s cool. like i said, NOT the skinniest girl in the room, never the biggest girl parts, but guys like me. a lot of it is about confidence. if you know you’re pretty, like i do, then people are drawn to you! im not saying that i’m ALWAYS satisfied with myself, its safe to say that nobody is. but people tell me im pretty, and when i smile, i know im gorgeous! every healthy person, if confident, is beautiful. sorry to ramble on.
Healthy is attractive. Like someone else said, curves doesn’t mean folds.
I just want to say that while being bigger is okay, there is such a gray in this that we must acknowledge. Some people are genetically designed to be heavyset, and unless they want to lead miserable lives thinking about every calorie, society must embrace them and tell them to love themselves and do not need to conform.
It’s others who don’t even realize they’re eating 4,000 calories a day and are under the delusion that they are just built a size 30. This is not a consequence of your genes, and your body is at risk for diabetes and hypertension among other complications that society should NOT encourage.
Live a healthy lifestyle, and your body will follow. Society will accept you if you try hard enough. As for others, people will be tough on you because you chose to not be conscious of your food intake. It’s almost that simple.
I lost my virginity at 210 lbs at the end of my freshman year in high school.. And im a female.. Right after that I was motivated to lose weight….. Became a vegetarian and retuned to school 50lbs lighter… My confidence and personality attracted the guys 100%…. im now in my second year of college and have kept the majority of the weight of except for fluctuating between 10 and 15 lbs…
I don’t know if any fellow Anas have posted in here, but I think it’s getting to the point where fat is more readily accepted than skinny.
Personally, I have about 1% body-fat, not taking into consideration the fat-content of the brain.
“Skinny is sexy; big isn’t beautiful” goes what may be my theme song.
I believe there are people that are big-boned and people who have medical problems which are understandable. However, for the majority of over-weight people I see, I do not find it enticing to see jiggly, fat all over them. You will see a lot of these people at HomeTown or some other all you can eat buffet and it just screams to you that they are not taking care of themselves. I don’t mean to judge people but seeing severely overweight people makes me lose my appetite and try to take care of myself more. Of course there is also the facts of how they dress and how they carry themselves too. When they dress like a slop and are over-weight, then I would really prefer to stay away.
I think fat people are courageous. I don’t know how they can get out of bed, take a shower, put clothes on, and go out in the world and live their lives each day. If I were fat I would hide, I would freak out in the shower looking at my fat. I would hate being stuffed into clothes. I would not want anyone to see me. I am thin, too thin is what everyone says. In my family it is a sin to be overweight, it looks bad and most importantly is UNHEALTHY! So we all exercise and eat well, but not too much, and we are thin. I have really fat cousins, but they are very cute, like little round balls of cuteness! I have a skewed view of myself, needing to be too thin, but I truly admire fat people who can live their lives fat and it doesn’t seem to stop them! I think a lot of fat people are beautiful, their skin is smooth so they can look younger. If someone is very seriously obese, I think they look uncomfortable more than anything else, like they are stuffed! I could go on, but I won’t.
If your heavy your heavy but at least learn to spell.
i aggree with some of you and some of you not so much…. i am a big girl 24almost 25 and after reading a lot of this book called servial of the prettiest us as a society take looks to the extrema… we all are beautiful in our own way weather we are fat or thin but being too much of either one can go both ways.. we just need to accept our selves the they way we are and if some one don’t like the way u look tell them to kiss your ass and u weren’t put on this earth to please them and any ways if they don’t like it they don’t have to look
It shows how ignorant some people can be. So many people here are picking on other people for being different. Does someone who is overweight really affect someone who is thin? Most of the people that commented poorly, as in accusingly and hurtfully, are not only damn stupid, but insensitive jerks.
“You will all be judged as you may, for you are only as beautiful as you are ugly.”
It’s funny how many people want to blame society’s conditioning as the reason we find fat people unattractive. The truth of the matter is, all animals (including humans) seek traits that indicate health and virility. This isn’t conditioning, it’s instinct. It all goes back to mating. An unreasonably overweight person doesn’t exactly scream health and virility.
But if you are overweight, don’t despair! The great thing about fat is that it can be lost. So go do it!
So where is the poll on how skinny people are unattractive? I would rather see a fat roll than a bone sticking out anyday.
I think excessive fat itself is unattractive, however, it most certainly can be overlooked if said person is in possession of other qualities, like brilliance or style (two major things I look for in someone.) Fat is on everyone, so absolutely no fat would be absurd, but I still prefer myself to be on the thin side, and I like to keep my BMI between 18 and 20 (You also have to keep in mind that I haven’t had children yet. After having kids, I’m sure it’s much more acceptable and normal to weigh more than 120 at 5′6″). But how I feel about myself and other women, I feel that most women, especially before having children, look best with little fat on their bodies, although it really depends on the body-type. Some women are naturally curvaceous, unlike me, so while being even slightly overweight for me would look strange, on some women it would look gorgeous.
However, disregarding all personality traits and focusing solely on physical traits in men, I would prefer them to be somewhere in the normal-thin range, because quite honestly, I like someone I can feel protected by (but not crushed by!)
In short, it honestly depends on the person and body-type, but in general, thinner people look better in clothing and more capable. Real, true obesity is quite frankly, disgusting. It not only shows you have a lack of self control and discipline, but it looks unflattering in every type of clothing.
Hope this helped you answer your question.
-Vanessa
Okay. I’m 14 and in middle school. I’m alittle overweight and I’ve seen girls who weigh more than me and they are more beautiful in the face and personality than the head cheerleader!
Fat isn’t ugly, though sometimes it isn’t good because of health hazards. But that thing of “oh chubby/fat people can’t be happy” is a load of BS.
My aunt who is 20 weighs about 180-200 and then theres her sister who weighs about..maybe 100-110. My plump aunt is more successful in her plus size modeling career than her sister who can barely get a job. My plump aunt has a very handsome slim boyfriend who kinda looks like leonardo cecaprio, while my slim aunt is stuck at home on depressants.
“fat” people can be just as beautiful. I would rather date someone who was considered “fat” rather than someone who’s a complete jerk about everything. “Fat” is beautiful. And for those people who say it’s ugly, you’re ignorant. I hope you either get married to someone who’s “fat” or turns “Fat” after you marry them. Or you gain 70 pounds, just so you know how it feels to be discriminated against just cuz you body isn’t supermodel tight. Anyway even supermodels arent perfect because they always get photoshopped.
As if it wasn’t bad enough to segregate people by race now were doing it by size?
I think that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the issue should revert to health and not looks.
How shallow we have become in this instant gratifying society.
Just my 6ft 307lb thought.
This needs to be said, fat is not attractive at all. Not even slightly overweight, it is a huge turn off. It is not normal, under natural conditions obesity doesn’t exist. So what’s the problem? The western diet is; the meat sweet diet which is full of unbalanced, artificially refined, high caloric/low fiber foods which are nutritionally inferior to what nature has to offer us.
There are extremely simple and effective ways to lose weight and keep it off. You’d be surprised, all you got to do is eat natural foods because they are the only foods that are nutritionally balanced, they will make you feel full when your body is nutritionally satisfied, they will not be addictive, they have vitamins, minerals and phytochemicals not found in the processed, junk, food-like substances that inundate the supermarket. The key in balance: eat real food, not too much, mostly plants. It is that simple. I have never been overweight but even I lost weight when I adopted a natural, processed food free diet. Your body wants to be lean and healthy.
Fruits, these majestic jewels of the natural world are perfect foods. Vegetables, nutrient dense, full of compounds which will do amazing things to your body and keep you healthy and disease free, then there are nuts a great source of valuable fats, grains are full of fiber and too many things to name, but the point is these foods are for us human beings. They are meant for us and if we exclusively eat them we will have no problems. It is that damn simple. I eat some meat but only as much as what fits in the palm of my hand.
Processed foods are literally full of low dose, toxins which in the long term will wreck your health long before you notice its sub clinical toxicity. You don’t need to worry about trans fats, MSG, Nitrosamines, refined sugar (or high fructose corn syrup), preservatives, regulators, or anything else that’s weird when you bite into an apple.
I can honestly say i have never met a healthy Big person whether they were attractive or ugly including myself. that is what is important…our health. so big ppl out there if u know u are attractive at ur current weight why not make an effort to be attractive at a healthy weight. Im doing it, its been a challenge but im getting thru it and so can u!
Plain and simple truth is, fat is hideous. It is ugly! It is not, nor will it ever be, beautiful. I say this as a fat person. I have been fat all my life, then made great strides a few years ago but have gained considerable weight back. While there have been some outside factors that have influenced my behavior and circumstances, I am still the one to blame. I’ve been acting like a whiny lib and playing the victem and I am so disgusted with myself. I have let thigs get so bad and I have made so many excuses to get to this point. I know I have to take charge and just deal with being hungry. Being hungry for three or four hours will not hurt me. I have to get back to running. It is so hard, but I know I have to make the right choices, so I can be healthy and fit and better looking. I don’t think I would ever be attractive, but I hate being repulsive.
i am a size 20 and im 15 im deeply inlove with my boyfriend and he is with me he is so sweet but i am still coscious of my looks im not ugly just fat and truthly im fitter then most of the girls in my GCSE pe class i can go longer then all of em on the cross trainers but every1 says to him y are yu with her shes fat and ugly wat can i do to feel better i am losing weight but i dont fink its falling off quick enough
I am a 41 yr old female with PCOS. It is an endocrine syndrome. Insulin resistance is a hallmark of PCOS, and it make the person gain weight. Not all PCOS patients are overweight, but a majority are. Just because someone is overweight don’t assume they overeat or are lazy. Get to know them.
Just being honest here since the question asks what I think, but to me, fat is ugly. I could never be physically attracted to a fat woman even if she had a great personality. It just repulses me, period. On the other hand, being too skinny is ugly as well, like when they’re ribs show or their arms and legs are like toothpicks.
Fat can be beautiful, it depends on your confidence. I am obese and have done plus size modeling in Milan, Italy. I get compliments all the time on my makeup, clothes, and face. I have guys tell me all the time that I have a prettier face than other skinny girls, or if I lost weight I would be a complete knock out. I carry myself well and dress well. I am confident because I know I have a well proportioned face and great features. No matter how much weight I lose or gain, my face will still be pretty because well, it is. Bottom line.
Fat can be beautiful, it depends on your confidence. I am obese and have done plus size modeling in Milan, Italy. I get compliments all the time on my makeup, clothes, and face. I have guys tell me all the time that I have a prettier face than other skinny girls, or if I lost weight I would be a complete knock out. I carry myself well and dress well. I am confident because I know I have a well proportioned face and great features. I have a metabolic disorder known as Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. This makes me gain weight twice as fast as others and makes it extremley difficult to lose. I eat all organic food and am healthier than everyone else I know. I have more energy than them, have a better chance fighting off viruses, and have a fine cholesterol. I exercise daily and am not lazy. I hate when people think all fat people are lazy. I don’t lay on my bed all day stuffing twinkies in my face. I’m getting back from the gym making a salad. No matter how much weight I lose or gain, my face will still be pretty because well, it is. Bottom line.
Fat can be beautiful, it depends on your confidence. I am obese and have done plus size modeling in Milan, Italy. I get compliments all the time on my makeup, clothes, and face. I have guys tell me all the time that I have a prettier face than other skinny girls, or if I lost weight I would be a complete knock out. I carry myself well and dress well. I am confident because I know I have a well proportioned face and great features. I have a metabolic disorder known as Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. This makes me gain weight twice as fast as others and makes it extremley difficult to lose. I eat all organic food and am healthier than everyone else I know. I have more energy than them, have a better chance fighting off viruses, and have a fine cholesterol. I exercise daily and am not lazy. I hate when people think all fat people are lazy. I don’t lay on my bed all day stuffing twinkies in my face. I’m getting back from the gym making a salad. No matter how much weight I lose or gain, my face will still be pretty because well, it is. Bottom line.
I’m what society considers an “obese” woman. I work everyday, am married, have good friends, make a great salary, and have a wonderful life. I exercise, have no arthritis. My knees don’t hurt. I feel good. I don’t have heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, and my cholesterol level is 135. I have dieted at times to try to be thin, still at the point when I was my thinnest, I still felt fat. We need to stop objectifying people. Hurting others to make yourself feel like a more capable person, is a lie. If you were dying and I offered you one of my kidneys, I guarantee you’d take it, even if you loathe fat people. Life is more than this squabble. Embrace life and love what you have of it, skinny, fat whatever. Learn to see who a person is. Look in their eyes and talk to them. They may be the next miracle in your life!
Yeah, when I was younger it was rough I was very tall and Chubby in grade school but by middle and High School I was much more accepted. I am happy with who I am and don’t care what others think. I have shed some pounds this past year for health reasons, I was never lazy I use to play football and workout like crazy in High School, I was born with digestive and metablism issues, I never could process food like others. MY friends always want to put on weight and can eat non-stop, my business partner and best friend still eats like he was 17,just yesterday he had coffee and bunch of donuts for breakfest, a huge lunch plus 3 candy bars, then more snacks later in the after and never gains a pound. Now for me I had to learn to eat and eat right actually, I never really ate breakfest, never really ate anything till I got hungry maybe 2 or 3 in the afternoon which was always something on the go very something you could eat in less then 10 mins, then have a light dinner but always put on weight. My Doctor instructed me to eat, balanced breakfest, proper lunch and not to rush it either (really hard in the world, to day so much to do so little time,eating to so many has become something that you just grab and go never really stop to enjoy or plan)snack on fruit and finish you day off with a very light dinner. 2 months later I lost 18 pounds, not 50, but my doctor was so right even if you aren’t hungry make sure you eat balanced meals to jump start your matablism for the day, eat your biggest meals and snacks during the day so you can burn it off during the day, the last meal should be light since odds are you gonna be more relaxed and won’t burn off to much. Don’t matter as long as your happy but if you not healthy be sure to try this it might work for you. Worse you can do is skip meals like I was doing.
As someone who has been on both sides of the FAT fence, I wish some of you fat haters would get it through your food deprived brains that being fat is not ALWAYS due to lack of self care or motivation. I was always a chubby kid, eventhough I trained extensively in ballet and ate all of the “right” foods, while my brother and sister ate junk all day and were bean poles. When I turned 13 I got tired of the ridicule from family and friends and started dieting , which lead to me developing anorexia. By 14, I was so thin that I had stopped menstruating…BUT I was so thin that I landed a modeling job with a top clothing designer. Everyone praised my achievement, but I was dying inside! The fact that everyone began to treat me BETTER, based soley on my weight, eventhough I was NOT healthy (14 yrs old, 5′7, 93 lbs) made me so depressed! I began drinking heavily, popping pills, and eventually cutting myself. Eventually I was hospitalized and since then I have led a pretty normal life. I have 3 kids now and yes, I am overweight (5′7, 178 lbs), but I have NO health problems and I am the happiest I have ever been. I wish you guys would see that skinny does NOT always equal healthy and fat does not always equal unhealthy! And the bottom line is that no matter how skinny you are, if you don’t love yourself, it’s never going to be enough! All of you people who crack our stupid jokes about fat people are UGLY inside and there’s no amount of dieting you can do to fix that!
I don’t have a problem with anyone whether they are overwieght or skinny. I am overweight though and I find myself disgusting. Many people don’t understand what it’s like once you become overweight. Everyone just tells you to lose weight but it’s never that easy. Especially with being disgusted by yourself and people always putting you down. I never actually feel part of a group with my friends. When they’re talking about boys and clothes I just sit there almost on the verge of tears because of how much self hate I have. Along with my weight problem I’m struggling with depression, but I don’t tell anyone in my family about it. We’ve already had enough problems I don’t need to be another one. I also have PCOS which makes it even harder to lose weght. At times things get so overwhelming I… I just don’t know what to do or how much longer I can live like this.
I am a teen and I am fat I think fat is ugly…WHO EVER THINK THAT FAT IS NOT UGLY IS VERY STUPID…..!!!!
Look, I was the perfect size all my life until I had my children. I had a 24 inch waiste even after having my second child. I complained then that I was fat. I didn’t even realize that I had a great figure until it was too late. After my fourth child, I lost control. It’s not something that happens over night but it does seem like it when you finally admit that your over weight and something has to be done. Once I did admit it, I wanted my old body back. You know, the one that I didn’t appreciate before I became overweight. Now, I’m going into my 40’s and will never be back down to where I used to be. I had back surgery from a fall down the steps and will never be able to really and truly excesise again. What I’m getting at is try to appreciate who you are today and work for a better tomorrow.
I believe that it is what is in your heart that makes you pretty. I know some people who are over weight, however they are some of the happeist people I know. As far as being skinny, I know some of them to and I think at times they think that they are better than everyone else who is not in their weight group. I also know people who are not that way. God loves us all and don’t care about our outer appearance, but what is in our hearts.
If you are over weight and wanting to lose weight, God bless you and keep the faith . I’ll be prayinfg for you. Remeber there is only one judge and none of are it!!!!
I had the pleasures of both worlds. I was 110 pounds before I had my kids and I rearly got hit on. Now I am 150 pounds and I always get hit on lol. Besides if you are bigger and don’t like the way you look you can go to the gym. I think everybody has some beauty.