My blog post about getting your spouse to exercise is one of my most popular, inspiring comments even now, almost a year after I posted it.
Clearly, this is a major issue in some relationships out there, as you'll see from some of these comments:
"I always get the "I'm an adult, you're not my mother" whenever I'd suggest doing ANYTHING to get my husband to do anything beneficial for his health."
"I too have tried everything to get my husband to come with me to the gym, but he is so inconsistent. We have been married for 2 years and he has put on about 60 pounds. I am really worried about his health."
"We just operate from different manuals, appearance is important to me and it kills me that there is a growing gap between the two of us....we all age, but let's at least try and age gracefully, right?!"
"I've done everything I can think of to encourage my wife to exercise for the last 10 years: offering to coach, trying to make it fun, buying various workout equipment and gym memberships, etc. I've been rejected for the last 10 years. I've finally accepted that she's decided to be sedentary and there's nothing I can do about that. "
So, what's the answer to this conundrum? If I had it, I would sell it to you for the low, low, low price of $99.99. Or, I would just post it here. I have made some suggestions but, of course, there is no answer that fits every relationship and, sometimes, it's hard to find even one answer that fits.
What I do think is that there some approaches that can make the situation worse and I've fleshed out a few of those ideas in my latest article, What not to say to the loved one who just won't exercise. If you check it out, let me know your thoughts on the matter. What would you add to the list?
As always, I want to hear from you about this. Have you ever said something to a loved one about his/her exercise habits you regret? Or have you had a loved one try to 'motivate' you in precisely the wrong way? Leave a comment and tell us about it.
For your added reading pleasure, my article is part of a larger series that includes many more 'What Not to Say...' articles from some of our best Health and Fitness Guides at About.com. Check it out for some amazing content about everything from addictions and cancer to fitness and mental health. I have to say, I'm very proud of my fellow Guides for this series and of Christine, our Running Guide who put the whole thing together. I forget how much we rock sometimes.
And on a completely unrelated note, Happy Birthday to My Dear Husband...who I will not nag about exercise. (at least, not today...)